{"id":1546,"date":"2022-02-03T16:09:59","date_gmt":"2022-02-03T16:09:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lsc.autismunlocked.co.uk\/?post_type=resources&p=1546"},"modified":"2024-01-24T12:39:45","modified_gmt":"2024-01-24T12:39:45","slug":"what-i-need-from-you-on-a-bad-day","status":"publish","type":"adult_resources","link":"https:\/\/lsc.autismunlocked.co.uk\/adult-autism\/self-care\/what-i-need-from-you-on-a-bad-day\/","title":{"rendered":"What I need from you on a bad day"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Everyone can get overwhelmed from time to time, or go through phases where everything just seems like a bit of a struggle. During difficult periods like this, figuring out some of the little things you need to get through the day that little bit more easily can make a huge difference. Our guest contributor, Emily Katy, shares some of the top things she needs on hard days, which you may also find helpful and can share with your loved ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

  1. Patience.<\/strong> Everything will require a hundred times more energy than usual today. I may not be able to do everything you expect of me. I may not be able to accept your rational answers to what I\u2019m struggling with. Please don\u2019t get annoyed. I\u2019m trying.<\/li>
  2. Space. <\/strong>Please don\u2019t push me to do things that I don\u2019t want to do. I may need time alone. As long as I\u2019m safe, just leave me for a bit. You can come and check on me. I just need some time to recover.<\/li>
  3. Reassurance.<\/strong> Chances are, I can\u2019t stop worrying about something. I probably think you hate me too, because I know I am making your day harder. I might need you to tell me a hundred times that you don\u2019t hate me. It\u2019s nothing that you\u2019ve done wrong. It\u2019s just my head.<\/li>
  4. Encouragement.<\/strong> If I have breakfast, that could be a big achievement. Validate this. Recognise the small things that I manage to do in the day. Tell me I\u2019m doing well. I won\u2019t believe you, but it\u2019s nice to hear it.<\/li>
  5. Practical help.<\/strong> If you have the time, I may be panicking over small things that I don\u2019t have the capacity to deal with right now. Like chores, or decisions I need to make, or correspondence I need to send. If possible, relieve a bit of the pressure and help me with this.<\/li>
  6. Hope.<\/strong> Remind me that I don\u2019t feel like this every day. Remind me that tomorrow may be brighter. That I can\u2019t possibly know what the future holds. Sit with me and look through my scrapbook, or at photos of happier times.<\/li>
  7. Reminders.<\/strong> Remind me that I am not a failure. Remind me that I am loved. Remind me that I am not a burden. Remind me that I am worthy.<\/li>
  8. Talk to me. <\/strong>Tell me nicely if you\u2019re finding things too much and you need space. Tell me that it\u2019s not my fault, but you need to look after yourself too. Tell me that you\u2019re going out for an hour and when you get back we can watch a film together for example. Just be honest with me.<\/li><\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    And please remember, I am so grateful for your kindness. Thank you for trying your hardest. It makes the hard days just that little bit easier.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    From needing space to wanting hope and encouragement, Emily Katy shares what works for her in difficult times.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":11,"featured_media":1950,"parent":0,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"content-type":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"set","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""}}},"categories":[57],"tags":[51],"featured_article_tag":[136],"ppma_author":[125],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/lsc.autismunlocked.co.uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/adult_resources\/1546"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/lsc.autismunlocked.co.uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/adult_resources"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/lsc.autismunlocked.co.uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/adult_resources"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lsc.autismunlocked.co.uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/11"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lsc.autismunlocked.co.uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1950"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/lsc.autismunlocked.co.uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1546"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lsc.autismunlocked.co.uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1546"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lsc.autismunlocked.co.uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1546"},{"taxonomy":"featured_article_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lsc.autismunlocked.co.uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/featured_article_tag?post=1546"},{"taxonomy":"author","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/lsc.autismunlocked.co.uk\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/ppma_author?post=1546"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}