For many children and their families, Christmas is a time of excitement filled with decorations, sleigh bells, aromatic food, and festive cheer. But for children with sensory differences, the sudden appearance of a tree in the living room covered in sparkly things can be really challenging. The blaring of festive songs as they pass the local shop might be overwhelming to their ears. And what is that new unfamiliar smell?
An autistic child might rely on tried and tested routines to make them feel safe, but their usual day-to-day will likely be upended by Christmas activities, invitations to parties, and the expectations of their friends and family.
They understand they are supposed to join in at school, but while the other children enjoy making decorations and swapping cards, for them, the glitter itches their skin, the glue feels like slime on their fingers, and writing hurts their hands and makes their brain feel fuzzy. And on top of all of that, they’re told there will be presents at home, but no they can’t have them now they have to wait until Christmas day. Furthermore, the gifts will be a surprise, but for them, surprises are scary and anxiety-provoking.
So what strategies can we use to help autistic children during the festive season? While we can’t stop our neighbours from rolling out the twinkly lights or prevent teachers from planning seasonal crafts, there are some simple things that might help.
Tips and strategies
- A low-stimulation den or nook with soft lighting and sensory aids like weighted blankets or ear defenders, could help your child decompress after a busy day.
- Deep pressure such as a tight hug or massage may help calm them and regulate their sensory experience.
- At parties or while visiting others, try creating a ‘safe zone’ for your child, such as a spare room, pop-up tent, or even your car, and bring their favourite calming items (EG a stuffed toy) to use there.
- Bring sensory aids when you go to parties, family gatherings, events, and on shopping trips etc.
- Design an advent calendar to help count down the days before Christmas. This doesn’t have to hide surprises behind tiny doors if that is stressful for them – go with whatever works for you.
- Avoid different coloured and/or flashing lights, as these are more stimulating than soft static lights of just one colour.
- Avoid moving furniture to make room for Christmas decorations, as this can be disorienting for an autistic child.
- Keep home decorations to one room or just certain areas so as not to dominate the whole house, which could be overwhelming.
These are just a few tips to try. Hopefully they will help and you and your family have an easier and merrier Christmas!
